Breaking Up With Perfect

I didn’t expect Amy Carroll’s new book Breaking Up With Perfect to have such an impact on me. You see, I’m not perfect, and I know that. I’ve known it for a long time. I wasn’t the smartest kid in my class, the pretty popular girl or the fastest one on the team. I accepted my imperfect status, and labeled myself as Not Good Enough.

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However, I didn’t let my Not Good Enough label stop me from trying to be perfect. It became my personal challenge to attain perfection, and to show them that I was Good Enough.  I studied long hours to make the grades, socialized with the popular kids and became a regular at the gym. I volunteered for the projects nobody wanted, joined the clubs and youth groups, and for the most part played the role of perfection quite good.

Constantly striving for perfection becomes tiresome, especially when you realize nobody really cares or notices all the perfect things you are doing. I started reading Breaking Up With Perfect, and discovered there was a flaw in my perfect plan. I was doing a lot of good things for all the wrong reasons. I needed to lay down the burden of feeling Not Good Enough, and pick up a new challenge- I am Good Enough.

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It’s not an easy task changing a nearly life-long mindset of inadequacy.  Amy Carroll’s words struck deep within my heart- The moment I begin wearing my roles as my name rather than looking to the Name Above All Names for my identity, perfection lures me back. For too long, I have been wearing the Not Good Enough insignia on my sleeve. I want to rip it off, and be free from the lies it spurns, but it’s not something I can’t do myself. My King Jesus took away the pain of perfection and gave me a crown for I am a daughter of the King. Breaking Up With Perfect taught me that We have a choice. We can choose a pie mentality or Kingdom generosity.

Sometimes, it’s a daily choice. People and problems arise that question our purpose and plans, and we must stand strong with our Savior and make a choice. When we choose correctly, we step out of our view of perfection into a position of humility where we begin to look more like Jesus inside and out.

Breaking Up With Perfect has strengthened my faith and soothed my soul. If you are struggling with perfection from feeling Not Good Enough or even the Good Girl mentality, I highly recommend this book. I’ve made the choice to live free as the daughter of the King, and so can you.

Do you struggle with perfection or the lack thereof? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

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Amy Carroll has written Breaking Up with Perfect for women who want to move past the pursuit of perfection into greater joy and deeper relationships. To get your copy, click here.



8 comments on “Breaking Up With Perfect”

  1. Matilda says:

    I love the review, this will be a very wonderful book to read. I am still learning to accept my imperfections and that of others. It has made me accept my limitations and look up to Christ to continue to perfect me. Thank you Rachel!
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    1. Rachel says:

      Yes, we can all use the reminder that we’re not perfect, yet good enough for God.

  2. Amy says:

    Wow, this sounds like the kind of book I need. I have been so beating myself up this summer because I haven’t been able to accomplish all the things I’d told myself I would. I could use a break up with perfect for sure.
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    1. Rachel says:

      Summer time can be hard. Enjoy the time with your kids. Your to-do’s can wait.

  3. Ally Carter says:

    Sounds like a good book, I’ll have to look into getting hold of a copy 🙂
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    1. Rachel says:

      It’s a wonderful book. I love how the author uses the story of Mary and Martha to convey the burden of perfection.

  4. Love the new look, very fresh and Carolina blue! 🙂 Thanks for sharing with Small Victories Sunday linkup. Pinning to our linkup board.
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    1. Rachel says:

      Thanks. I’m still tinkering with the layout.

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