21-Days to A Happy Marriage
You hear a lot about me time, mom’s time out, and family time, but what about us time? Us time is when you and your spouse enjoy time together to talk without interruptions, have a quiet dinner, watch a movie, participate in a fun activity, cuddle, laugh, do nice things for each other and make love. It sounds like dating your mate, and part of it is. The other part is about doing something nice for your spouse on a regular basis until it becomes a habit– a happy habit.
For the past few months, I’ve been working on the launch team for Author Kathi Lipp’s new book Happy Habits for Every Couple… 21 Days to A Better Relationship. As I read through the book, I learned invaluable tools to strengthen my marriage, yet the real growth began when I started the 3-week challenge of making time for us and completing the daily projects. The projects ranged from sweet surprises to planned date nights to bonus projects (sex).
In the first few chapters of the book, Kathi emphasized the importance of flexibility when planning and executing the projects. I quickly learned that flexibility was the key to making the challenge successful with 2 boys with 2 different school schedules and my husband’s work schedule plus all the unexpected events, such as; the stomach bug (everyone in our house got it) and snow (causing school and everything around us to shut down for 2 weeks) that occurred during the challenge. There were some challenges that I skipped like cooking together which would have been more stressful than beneficial. The challenge also encouraged 3 date nights with sitters, but since our budget is tight I opted for stay-in dates after the kids went to bed. It was less stressful with worrying about getting back at a certain time and paying the sitter, yet we still made it fun and relaxing.
Happy Habits for Every Couple has 21 daily projects for you and your spouse to accomplish. For the essence of space and not giving away all the goodness this book offers, I’m going to share with you my favorite projects. You can purchase a copy of Happy Habits for Every Couple at Family Christian store.
Favorite Projects…Happy Habits
Giving your spouse extra time to sleep in while you make the kids breakfast or 30 minutes to decompress after a long day at the office.
2. A Hallmark Moment
Purchase a card for your spouse, write a sweet note, and leave it somewhere for them to find. I placed the card in the picture in the front seat of my husband’s truck. I even put a Dove chocolate inside too.
3. Getting Acquainted
Ask your spouse some questions about their favorite things. It was fun talking about our answers, and it made date planning easier.
4. Do Something Special
I surprised my husband with homemade baked from scratch cookies and not the break apart I usually make, and these were just for him (not the kids).
5. Getting Active Together
This is a favorite of mine. Last year, my husband and I ran a mud run together, and for this project we built snowmen together (we let the kids help). Remember the snow I mentioned earlier, this is were the flexibility came into play.
6. Date Night
For our stay-in date night, we rented a movie we had both been wanting to see. I made a special snack that included wine, cheese, crackers and sliced apples. The fun part of stay-in dates is getting comfy and snuggling during the movie.
How would you customize one of the projects that I listed above for you and your spouse?
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