I Can’t Complain

I can't complain

I can’t complain. It’s Saturday.
It’s the start of a long weekend.
It’s 7 a.m. I made the kids breakfast, and a big cup of coffee for me.
I have laundry to do.
Clothes to fold.
Floors to vacuum and beds to make.
I’m not going to complain that my husband, Seth just left for a day trip to our hometown three hours away.

You see it’s not any trip to visit family. It’s a trip to say good-bye to his cousin.
For ten years, Seth’s cousin, Brande has been battling cancerous brain tumors.

I remember when they discovered the first tumor. We received an urgent call that he wasn’t going to make it through the night. We loaded up the car, the dog, and were on the road ready to be by his bedside. Luckily, he had made it through the night and many years to come. Since then, Brande has endured surgeries, chemotherapy, and radiation treatments.

His mother told me that Brande doesn’t complain or ask “why me?”. Brande has a fighting spirit that is evident in his determination to live. Brande has celebrated the birth of his precious daughter and has pushed through pain to attend family gatherings. Last September with help from his parents, he attended another cousin’s wedding.

I wanted to complain about my children whining on our car ride to the wedding or wiggling in their seats, but when I looked behind me and saw Brande’s eyes shinning in admiration; I just couldn’t. Despite his illness, pain and short prognosis to live; Brande has been living life to the fullest.

Does it take a terminal disease to make us realize that we have no reason to complain? Why does it take a tragedy to remind us to hug our kids? We are all aware that life is short, yet it takes watching a young man with weeks to live to understand the depth of this phrase.

Seth woke up at 6 a.m. on a Saturday and is driving to see his cousin probably for the last time. I can’t imagine what’s going through his head or heart. He’ll gently squeeze Brand’s hand and give him a hug. Maybe they’ll reminisce about going four-wheeling as teenagers or talk about being proud Dad’s. Then they’ll say good-bye.

I won’t complain. I’ll play with the kids today, and be thankful for the house we are cleaning.

I won’t complain. Brande didn’t complain. It’s not about the why me’s?, but instead why am I so blessed?

I will pray for Brande, his family and my husband.

Life is short, and there is no reason to complain.

Bible Verses to Ponder

2 Corinthians 2:10

Philippians 2:14-15

1 Peter 4:9



21 comments on “I Can’t Complain”

  1. Michelle says:

    I lost my sister-in-law to a brain tumor two years ago and I remember how it affected me. We take so much for granted until that dreadful news comes. I agree with you, complaining is the last thing we should be doing. Rejoicing for life is so much better. So sorry to hear about your husband’s cousin.
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    1. Rachel says:

      So sorry to hear about your sister-in-law. I can’t imagine what his family is experiencing right now. I’m still praying for a miracle as well as peace and comfort for his family.

  2. Emily says:

    I’m sorry…Thanks for sharing. It’s nice to have reminders of how precious life is. We need to keep our complaints in perspective.
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    1. Rachel says:

      Reminders are important. I just wish it didn’t involve death or tragedy.

  3. Debbie says:

    Such a beautiful post… It is a blessing to get to know such strong human beings. They inspire us becoming better too.
    Wishing you all strength. #SmallVictoriesSunday
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    1. Rachel says:

      Some of the strongest people I know have endured sickness or death of a loved one. When we are the weakest, God makes us stronger.

  4. I will also pray for your family. It is difficult, and makes us appreciate the here and now and family that much more.

    1. Rachel says:

      Thank you for your prayers. Our family has been good about coming together during these times.

  5. Kate says:

    My thoughts are with your family, I can’t imagine how hard that would be. Thank you for such a heart-warming article though, good reminder to not get consumed by the little things that can seem so overwhelming.
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    1. Rachel says:

      Thank you. I’ve been thinking about this article all weekend when I’m about to complain about the kids or a mess. It’s just not that big of deal when you put it into perspective.

  6. Oh Rachel, I am so sorry to hear this about your husband’s cousin. I see how close my boys are to their cousins and how devastating it would be at such a young age. I thank you for giving us this reminder to focus on the important things in life. Thanks for sharing with Small Victories Sunday linkup and hosting with me. Pinning to our linkup board.
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    1. Rachel says:

      It’s hard to understand why things like this happens. Brande’s fighting spirit has influenced me to keep strong, and not complain.

  7. For some reason I had this bookmarked to read and just saw it again. Beautiful! Prayers for your family and extended family.

    1. Sorry…some of my comment deleted before it posted. Beautiful reminder of how precious and fleeting life can be and how our perspective needs to live in that place every day.
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      1. Rachel says:

        So true, Bonnie. It’s all about perspective.

    2. Rachel says:

      Thanks for your prayers. Brande passed away last week.

      1. I’m so sorry. Praying for peace and comfort for the family and a time to draw near each other and God.
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        1. Rachel says:

          Thank you for your prayers.

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